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  • Writer's pictureKrista Bontrager

When Living Your Truth Becomes a Lie

We’ve all seen the memes that populate the internet: live your truth, follow your heart, you only have one life to live. They sound nice and positive. But what if these slogans are actually lies? Alisa Childers was here to help us uncover common lies and hold on to the soul-restoring truths of God’s Word.

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Interview with Alisa Childers

Alisa Childers is a dear friend of the ministry, affectionately known as "Auntie Alisa." She is a wife, mother, musician, author, YouTuber, Christian Apologist, and so much more!

Right out of the gate, we dove into the topics in Alisa's new book and what motivated her to tackle the hot-button ideology of "My Truth."

Alisa helped us understand these major issues:

Culture is feeding us two great lies:

1. Humans are inherently good

2. Truth is fluid, not absolute or objective

The big question our society is asking:

Do you think humans are inherently sinful or inherently good?

These are some of the slogans (lies!) that our culture is feeding us!

  • You are enough

  • You are perfect just as you are

  • You should put yourself first

  • You are in control of your own destiny

  • You only live once

  • God just wants you to be happy

How do these lies lead us to be anxious, exhausted, and self-obsessed?

  • Women, and even Christian women, are buying into these slogans in droves!

  • Families are being destroyed as women (and men!) are leaving deep, long-held commitments and pursuing their own inner, selfish dreams.

  • Turning inward and being self-focused causes us to miss the mark because we don't always know what's best for us!

Would apologetics ministries in churches help in curbing the desire for cultural approval?

Apologetics is great and important for kids to understand the "why" behind the "what" of Christianity. BUT, it may not always insulate kids from absorbing the culture.

Research shows that the kids who *stayed* in the faith after leaving home had:

  • Family dinners 5 out of 7 nights = genuine faith expressed in the home and genuine family connections were made!

  • Faith encounter-- the family took time to express faith outside of merely Sundays at church.

In other words, the parents and kids were truly living out their faith on a regular basis, rather than simply going to church on Sundays.

What about Objective Truth in today's world of "My Truth"?

  • Truth is what is real; it is a belief or statement that lines up with reality.

  • Objective Truth is things like science, math, and empirical evidence vs Subjective Truth, which is opinion/based on the subject's preferences, such as things like favorite flavors of ice cream or favorite movies.

  • Our culture has placed morality and religion into SUBJECTIVE categories. BUT, religion and morality CANNOT be put into the Subjective Truth category! Religion and morality deal with OBJECTIVE TRUTH. In other words, Christianity is OBJECTIVELY true for everyone, at all times, and in all places and to say otherwise is an error.

To learn more about the "My Truth" phenomenon, check out a previous show we did with Philosophy Professor, Dr. Aaron Preston:

How do I stay Biblically faithful while also pursuing my dreams? How do I discern what God is calling me to?

  • Focus on being faithful to God in whatever job/role He has you in, rather than only focusing on one specific goal/dream to pursue, which could become an idol. As you are content in pursuing God where you are, you can walk through open doors as He leads, rather than kicking down doors in pursuit of a dream, which so many of today's self-help books advocate.

  • The culture says, "You can have it all!" but this is a lie!

  • There are many seasons in life; enjoy the season you're in.

What's an issue that you see on the horizon for Progressive Christianity?

  • The idea of the "Universal Christ" (a mystical concept that we *are* Christ/or that Christ is *in* all of us in a mystical way, making us God-like) has swept in as the dominant Christology and worldview of Progressive Christians. Instead of merely a "Deconstruction" of the Historic Christian Worldview, Progressive Christians are now (and will continue) to advocate for the Universal Christ as a worldview that seeks to answer all the big life questions (who we are as humans, what are we here for, where do we go when we die, etc)

  • Critical Theory conversation will continue to be dominant.

How do we approach apathy to the faith in teens in a me-focused, instant gratification world? How do we help cultivate a hunger for the Word?

  • Churches need to preach what Christianity actually is; we need to get back to framing the Gospel for what it is--saving you from your slavery to sin and the path of hell and destruction. Christianity isn't something you add to your life to make you happy. With teens, we need to shoot straight! Tell them the truth and don't placate them.

  • Teaching basic Hermeneutics to help empower them to read and interpret the Bible correctly on their own.

Pre-ordering Alisa's new book is critical for trigging the algorithms and making the book visible to more people!

If you pre-order, you will get these bonus perks:

  • Exclusive 5-video teaching series by Alisa with more content and stories

  • 5 PDFs with discussion questions


Be sure to grab a copy of Alisa's brand new book, "Live Your Truth & Other Lies: Exposing Popular Deceptions That Leave Us Anxious, Exhausted, and Self-Obsessed":

Alisa's first book is a personal memoir and exploration of Progressive Christianity. Check it out:

Alisa recommends Teasi Cannon's book, "Lord, Where's My Calling?":

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Instagram Chaos + Announcements

Discussion based on this recent Instagram post from CFBU:

4 Reasons Why Black Liberation Theology is Another Gospel:

Monique shares advice on how to be unbothered on social media: "I said what I said." We must be ready to take the name-calling and not let it rattle us! Whatever is coming for Krista and Monique today (and Alisa!), will be coming for the rest of us tomorrow.

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